Work. Pump. Repeat. has an online home

Looking to stay up-to-date on publication, book tour, and other news for my book, Work. Pump. Repeat: How to Survive Breastfeeding and Going Back to Work?

Look no further: Join me at www.workpumprepeat.com, where you can sign up for email updates on the book, find book tour dates when they’re posted, and more!

xo

I’m Allowed to Want Stuff for Myself

I’m lucky this week to have guest written for Thrive Momma, a support service and community for new moms making the erggghhhhhhhh painful and crazy transition back to work.

Have you ever said something like this?

–        I work so I can set an example for my daughter.

–        I exercise because I need energy to play with my children.

–        I go on dates with my spouse because I want my kids to see a healthy relationship.

On being allowed to want things just because WE want them:

http://thrivemomma.com/meet-jessica-shortall/

I SUPPORT YOU!!!

It’s the tail end of #ISupportYou week, and I wanted to share what I think is the best video ever made about motherhood for our generation. I never cease to sob a little when it gets to the “Now I tell you love each other as I have loved you” part.

LOVE YOU, MAMAS OF EVERY STRIPE!

Why I’m a Momivist: how a Lactation Consultant quit Lactivism

A kindred spirit!

The Momivist

Jody

This is a picture of me with my youngest son, who was born 10 years ago during World Breastfeeding Week. It is hard to believe that just 10 years ago, the method a woman chose to feed her baby was not a heated subject, like it is now! Today, five years after opening my private lactation practice, and during World Breastfeeding Week, I have decided I no longer want to be a lactivist.

That’s right – I QUIT!

I think I should define the word lactivist. This is from Wikipedia:

Lactivism (a portmanteau of “lactation” and “activism”) is the advocacy of breastfeeding. Supporters, referred to as “lactivists”, seek to promote the health benefits of breastfeeding over formula-feeding and to ensure that nursing mothers are not discriminated against.

Ironically, if a woman cannot breastfeed, or simply chooses not to, she may now be the one facing discrimination! How did this happen?

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Work. Pump. Repeat. (the book): Coming soon!

My book for working, breastfeeding women is in pre-publication! Here’s what Midwest Book Review has to say about it:

…a solid advice guide that should be on the shelves of any woman who enjoys a career and who wants to return to it while continuing to nurture her child: a guide very highly recommended for its exceptional focus and well-rounded discussion of the realities of the venture.

Check out details at www.workpumprepeat.com. You can sign up there to receive updates, and be the first to know when some cool stuff happens:

  • Kickstarter campaign to raise funds for self-publication. Super affordable rewards for backers include e-books and signed paperbacks.
  • News and press related to the book.
  • Publication and availability to purchase on all major e-book readers, and in paperback form from Amazon.com.

xo

Dear Lactivist: I Am Not A Milk-Delivery System

***Update!! My new book, Work. Pump. Repeat: How to Survive Breastfeeding and Going Back to Work, is in pre-publication. No judgment, no pressure, no Mommy Wars. Just the advice you need, from hundreds of working moms who’ve been there. You can place an advance order by going to www.workpumprepeat.com. Thanks! -JS.***

Dear Lactivist,

I’m getting closer and closer to the publication of my book for working, breastfeeding women, and as I accidentally become one of those people who moves in breastfeeding circles a lot, I’m starting to notice something disturbing about how mothers of new babies are sometimes viewed and treated. I don’t know if what I’m about to write applies to YOU, lactivist hopefully reading this right now, but I’d like to ask you to read this with an open mind and ask yourself whether you recognize anything here.

Here is the major disclaimer: I am talking about a minority of breastfeeding advocates here. Most of you lovely people do not do what I am about to talk about. And “lactivists” are super important. And all of you – including the ones I’m talking about here – are amazing people who are working hard for women and babies. I’m not going to keep disclaiming this throughout this post, so please write this on your heart. I mean it: you are awesome.

OK, here goes: If your job or public persona is related to breastfeeding, do any of these sound familiar?

  1. You push exclusive breastfeeding as the only viable or laudable option for baby-feeding
  2. You believe that virtually any mother can and should exclusively breastfeed for two years if she just tries hard enough
  3. You don’t like to share information with new mothers about how to supplement with formula, or how to wean off the breast altogether
  4. You tell exhausted working mothers with supply issues to set an alarm in the middle of the night to pump, or to “reverse-cycle” – have the baby sleep all day and then co-sleep and nurse with the mother all night

If this is you, I want to gently tell you that you are making me feel like you don’t care about ME. At all.

Continue reading Dear Lactivist: I Am Not A Milk-Delivery System

Does breastfeeding protect you from postpartum depression?

My wonderful friend Ellie Stoneley, a popular blogger based in the UK (and a Bruce Springsteen fanatic, which won this Jersey girl’s heart straight off), wrote a piece this week that has gotten love from both HuffPo and UNICEF. In essence, Ellie notes a recent study that found that PPD “is more than double in women who planned to breastfeed and then were unable to, whereas the women who planned to breastfeed and then did are 50% less likely to be affected.”

Ellie goes on to talk about how essential it proved to be that she prepared for breastfeeding, through classes and reading, before the birth of her lovely little sprite Hope, and how important postpartum support was. She advocates strongly that every woman, in every country, have ready access to ongoing support in the early weeks and months of her baby’s life, because, let’s all say it together: BREASTFEEDING MIGHT BE NATURAL, BUT IT AIN’T EASY.

Ellie’s piece resonated with me on a lot of levels, and I am so proud of her for advocating for something that ALL women and babies, of all socio-economic levels, everywhere, need and deserve.  But it also got me thinking that something continues to be missing from this conversation. (I can say this, knowing that Ellie will have my back!)

Continue reading Does breastfeeding protect you from postpartum depression?

The One Thing You Need to Know Before Going Back to Work

I recently asked my Facebook community this question: “What’s the ONE thing you wish you’d known before going back to work while breastfeeding?”

…and the answers poured out. These ladies have been through the war, and they have really useful advice…

…on parts:

  1. Double check you have all your parts.
  2. Target sells Medela pump parts. If you get to work and realize you’ve left your parts at home, don’t freak out. Target can save the day! (So can Babies R Us)
  3. Bring separate pumping sets for each time you pump…i had a clean bag of parts and a dirty bag when done… Made it so much faster while there but made for alot of dishes once home!!! (Jessica’s note: after each pumping session, I prefer to throw the pump parts in a large, slider-top Ziploc, and throw the bag in the fridge. It’s cold when you start up the next time, but it’s sanitary and fast!)
  4. Pack extra of those white membranes (they are like socks in the dryer)
  5. Stash a box of breastmilk bags at work, so if/when you forget bottles to store milk, you are covered. Also just keep a few extra bottles.
  6. Microwave sterilizer bags.
  7. Buy a pump for home and leave the giant rig at work. Less forgetting.
  8. Don’t forget the bottle caps!! And if you do, just leave the shields on the bottles and you’ll be fine!

…and clothing:

  1. No matter how many signs you have on the door, someone is walking in, so bring your hooter hider.
  2. Change of clothes in filing cabinet. (for leaks / spills)
  3. Make sure to have a hands free bra so you can multitask and work while pumping!! (Jessica’s note: I have found that the flanges/horns  fit fine tucked into the cups of a regular bra, and I can still work – aka check Facebook – while I pump.)

…tricks to keep you on time and on target:

  1. Set an alarm to remind you to pump every 3 hours.
  2. Pack snacks in the pumping bag.
  3. Pack it all up the night before.
  4. Start building up a big freezer stash way in advance (Jessica’s note: more on how to do that here)

…and a loving reminder from a mom who’s been there, with the mom guilt:

  1. You may not be able to be with your baby but pumping might allow you to feel connected and present and contributory.

 

What’s YOUR #1 piece of advice for back-to-work?

xo

 

Work.Pump.Repeat. coverP.S. Want more? From flying with a pump to talking about your breasts with the person who signs your paychecks, my new book, Work. Pump. Repeat: The New Mom’s Survival Guide to Breastfeeding and Going Back to Work, comes out September 8, 2015. You can pre-order now, via:

Breast Milk on Ice: How to Build a Freezer Stash Before You Go Back to Work

Work.Pump.Repeat. cover***Update!! From building a freezer stash to talking about your body with the person who signs your paychecks, my new book, Work. Pump. Repeat: The New Mom’s Survival Guide to Breastfeeding and Going Back to Work, is now on sale. You can order now, via:

…and this blog has a new home, at http://workpumprepeat.weebly.com/blog. Please join me there!

Now, then…

Once you start thinking about your first day back at work, you’re likely to have some burning questions about how on earth to store up enough milk to leave with your baby’s caregiver. How to build up a stash is the question I get asked most often by new parents.

After you’ve learned how to pump, you have to get on a regular schedule of pumping and saving milk if you want to build up a stash. You have likely heard a lot about the supply and demand aspect of breastfeeding – that supposedly perfect cycle of your body making as much milk as your baby needs. This might make you wonder how you will ever get any additional milk to save for when you go back to work. But it is entirely possible, assuming you have a pretty normal milk supply. (If you have a low supply and/or are already supplementing with formula, you will have to work harder to store up milk, and you are likely looking at your caregiver supplementing during the day. And you are still an awesome parent.) Continue reading Breast Milk on Ice: How to Build a Freezer Stash Before You Go Back to Work

Breastfeeding: Where Perfect is the Enemy of Good

When I was in business school, I had a classmate and friend named Josh, with whom I worked on every group project. Fortunately for me, he is one of those people who will always tell you the truth about yourself. He called me Captain, and if I were sugar-coating it I would say this name came from my demonstrated leadership abilities, but in honor of Josh, I’ll shoot you straight and tell you it was probably because I’m bossy.

Anyway. One day, we were arguing about what needed to be done on something we were working on, and I wanted to do more, more, more. And Josh looked at me witheringly and said, “Captain, your problem is that you let perfect be the enemy of good.”

I’ll admit it took me a solid 36 hours to understand what he even meant by this. Because in my mind, perfect has always, ALWAYS been the thing to strive for. Especially when it was something measurable, with grades, scores, rankings, or numbers of any kind. But when I did finally get it, it changed my life.

This tendency toward perfectionism and neurotic need-to-measure-itis came into full flower when I had my first child. Breastfeeding was something I could be perfect at, if I just worked at it hard enough. And it was something so rife with measurables, I was practically giddy with anticipation. Ounces (of milk pumped or fed, and gained by the baby, and frozen in the freezer). Feedings per day. Hours of sleep at a stretch. Weeks until baby slept through the night. Count count count. Measure measure measure.

And then there was the “Exclusive Breastfeeder” badge.

Continue reading Breastfeeding: Where Perfect is the Enemy of Good